Handling Job Rejection Positively:  Strategies for Dealing with Job Applications and Interview Setbacks

Hi,

I’m Alix and it’s my mission to help as many of the next generation as possible work in jobs that meet their passion and purpose, making them happy and fulfilled adults. Providing support and hand holding where they may not have any.

With no support as I traversed the career path leading me to where I am today, finally, after many, many years on the wrong path, fulfilling my passion and purpose, I’m here today to offer you hints and tips gathered along my way, to make yours clearer and satisfying soonest - be a ‘virtual mentor’ if you like, here for you when I can help you fit pieces together…

Today we'll explore effective strategies for handling job rejection with those promised hints and tips on steps you can take to help increase your chances going forward.

So, if you’ve read any of my articles, you know that the first step is to grab a snack (I’ll wait while you do) before we begin going down the rabbit hole.

Rejection: one of those words that summons up negativity…

When applying for jobs, rejection is, unfortunately, an inevitable part of the journey.

Whether it's a polite email stating, "We regret to inform you," or the deafening silence following sending in your application, or, worse, after attending an interview, the sting of rejection can be disheartening.

But take it, shake it up and use it in the right way and you can turn it into a positive step - make it work for you.

To start, it’s crucial to remember that rejection isn't a measure of your worth or potential.

It could be that there were hundreds of candidates for one job. It only takes one of those to have slightly more experience in a certain field to make them the successful one for that particular job so, although it makes sense that it can make you feel low, don’t despair.

Instead, turn it into an opportunity for your growth, your resilience, and ultimately, your success.

Reframe rejection as feedback…

Rejection is a chance to learn and grow. Understanding that rejection provides insights into areas where you can improve or tailor your approach, you can use that feedback to refine your resume, interview techniques, or overall job search strategy.

Although it can be challenging, handling rejection with resilience its essential for maintaining your confidence and continuing your pursuit of the right opportunity for you.

But first…

Don't take it personally…

Remember to maintain perspective. Rejection is not a reflection of your capabilities. It's a result of various factors, including company needs, competition, and fit.

It simply means that this particular opportunity wasn't the right fit at this time.

Keep in mind that countless factors beyond your control may influence the hiring decision.

Allow yourself to feel…

Receiving a rejection can evoke a range of emotions, from disappointment to frustration, sadness and even self-doubt. It's essential to acknowledge and accept these feelings rather than suppressing them.

Allow yourself to feel but refrain from dwelling on negative thoughts. Remember, experiencing rejection is a normal part of the job-seeking process.

Suppressing emotions can hinder your ability to move forward constructively.

Practice self-care…

At worse, it can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being, so it's crucial to prioritise self-care.

Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it's exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.

Absolutely no reading of sad books, listening to sad music, or watching sad films!

Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend in a similar situation.

Taking care of your physical and emotional health will help you maintain resilience and perspective during difficult times.

Seek support…

And don't hesitate to lean on your support network during challenging times. Share your experiences and feelings with friends, family, or mentors who can offer encouragement and perspective.

Surround yourself with positive influences that uplift and motivate you to persevere in the face of

adversity. Happy books, happy music, happy films.

Practice mindfulness…

Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing and meditation, can also help you manage stress and anxiety.

Just focussing on the here and now will also promote resilience and emotional well-being.

And always remember - all you have to do is get through the next five minutes, then the next five minutes and so on.

Seek constructive feedback…

So, the next step, is to ask yourself the following questions:

Did you apply for the right job?

Did you have all the right qualifications or experience asked for?

At the interview, did the prospective employer realise your heart wasn’t in this particular opening?

And ask for feedback.

Although it can be intimidating reaching out to the employer for feedback, it’s your best opportunity to gain valuable insight.

Politely inquire about areas where you could improve or skills you might develop so that you’re prepared for future openings.

Feedback can provide you with clues in areas that you may not be aware of.

Don’t be arrogant – implying you definitely were the best candidate – just explain you want to learn. You never know, it could remind them that you’re available should a similar opportunity open in their company.

Again, remember any feedback will only be relevant to the job you’ve applied for, is not a personal slight and you could identify just the one more course that you need to take to tick all the right boxes for future applications.

Use this feedback and take the time to reflect on the application and interview process to identify any areas where you feel you could have performed better or identify aspects of the job that you could have addressed more effectively.

Use this to enhance your presentation, skills or qualifications and refine your approach for future opportunities.

Then focus on your strengths…

Now redirect your focus towards your strengths and accomplishments. Remind yourself of past successes and the unique skills and experiences that make you a valuable candidate.

Cultivating self-confidence will empower you to navigate future challenges with resilience and optimism.

Take back control…

While optimism is valuable, it's important to manage your expectations. Not every application will result in an offer, and that's perfectly normal.

But focusing on aspects within your control can empower you. It gives you back control instead of leaving you feeling you’re being pushed about by outside influences.

Working on improving your skills, expanding your network, and refining your application materials will do this.

Reevaluate your goals…

Take time to reflect on whether your current job search meets your long-term goals and aspirations.

Consider new paths or industries you haven't previously explored.

In my book ‘I am Choosing my Options’ I explain how identifying your passion and purpose will lead you to the path of your highest potential. Ask if your local library has a copy, or you can order it on Amazon, if they haven’t.

Also read the chapter on goals or read my article ‘Why, how and what happens when you set goals’ which will help you lay out the career path to get there.

We spend too much time at work not to be doing something we love, something we want to hop out of bed for and something where we give back to the world, fulfilling our purpose.

Continuous improvement…

Continuous improvement is also a key to moving forward.

Can you do any online training, or courses to fill gaps in what you want to do?

Consider attending workshops or acquiring certifications to enhance your skills and make yourself a more competitive candidate.

Embrace flexibility…

Flexibility can lead to unexpected opportunities. Be open to roles or industries you may not have initially considered.

If changing direction, review your CV to pin-point relevant skills and experience that can be adapted to different lines of work.

Revisit your CV…

Ensure that you’ve included a ‘Personal Profile’ section at the beginning of your CV.

This should link to jobs you’re looking for, rather than any you’ve left, including skills and strengths you can bring to a new employer.

Transferable skills should be listed as key skills, using the key words associated with the job you want.

It’s not necessary to list every job you’ve ever held but include the ones that are relevant. You also don’t need to add every duty your current or old job entailed, but again, tailor it to include results achieved while in the role that link to the job you want.

Read my article on ‘Tailoring your CV and covering letter to a particular job’ to see how employers use key words to filter through CVs.

And help the employer to see how you can fit in and be an asset to their company.

Online…

Update your online presence, ensuring your ‘about’ section is relevant to the job openings you want. Remember to use those all-important key words.

Any photo should show you as a professional, rather than drunk in a bar!

Network…

Ask around for contacts and any job openings anyone is aware of. People want to help each other.

Broaden your horizons…

Sometimes, rejection can be a blessing in disguise, steering you towards unexpected opportunities.

Consider exploring different avenues for job search, such as networking events, online platforms, job fairs, and informational interviews. A diversified approach increases your chances of finding opportunities.

Embrace flexibility and adaptability, as they’re essential traits in today's dynamic job market.

Polish your elevator pitch…

An elevator pitch is the idea that if you travel a couple of floors with someone who asks what you do, you can respond with a short, but comprehensive, reply rather than with ‘um’s’ and ‘ah’s’ as you search for the right words.

Craft a concise introduction that highlights your professional background, accomplishments, and skills.

You never know where a chance meeting may lead.

Stay positive and focused…

The job search process is often filled with ups and downs. Maintain a positive outlook and believe in your ability to overcome challenges. Remember that each wrong opportunity brings you one step closer to finding the right one.

Stay focused on your goals, stay persistent and stay committed.

Trust that perseverance and resilience will ultimately lead you to success.

Maintain a positive outlook and remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments. Focus on the progress you've made and the steps you're taking towards your career goals.

Rejection is a stepping stone, not a roadblock…

Remember that successful people often faced multiple rejections before finding the right fit. Each rejection brings you one step closer to your eventual success.

Celebrate small wins…

The road to success is rarely a straight line, so celebrate any progress you make, even if it's not a job offer. Whether it's a successful interview, a valuable connection, or an improved skill, these small wins contribute to your growth.

Conclusion…

In conclusion, handling job rejection requires resilience, self-reflection, and a positive mindset. Embrace rejection as a natural part of the career journey and use it as an opportunity for growth and learning. By acknowledging your emotions, seeking feedback, and staying persistent, you can navigate the challenges of rejection with grace and emerge stronger and more resilient than before.

Keep in mind that the right opportunity is out there, and with patience and persistence, you'll find your way to it.

I’d love to hear how you’re getting on and, where possible, if we can help more.

Lastly, I wanted to both wish you luck and say that I know you can do it.

Success is within your grasp!